just in case you’re wondering, “I can think for myself” is one of these headlining gems. Idk. It’s really depressing but also perhaps good to know that this is actually what a lot of people would just nod their heads to and agree with. But the overall concept here is that to be “a good man” in a heterosexual relationship, you must ignore what someone is asking you/saying to you/consenting to when it comes to their preferences. Which, no matter what your views are on these topics, is a horrible precedent!
And in truth, sure, some people like having their bill paid for and whatever. Not my life, not my issue. But articles like that further work to convince people that I really can’t have a preference- that even stating that I have a preference is just some nefarious denial thing where I will actually be pissed off if I do pay/secretly pleased when they ignore my request to pay my way.
I was also quite bothered that “Don’t Objectify Me!” was on there, because the article seems to make no distinction between objectification and appreciation, and there’s a difference. “Independent women today want to be valued for their intelligence, their work ethic, their kindness — oh yeah, and their looks. Things have changed, but they haven’t changed that much. Females who claim they aren’t impressed by compliments about their appearance are liars. The beauty and fashion industries would implode if this were true.”
Of course people like compliments but there’s a way to give compliments that isn’t objectifying. And it’s completely possible to place more emphasis on your respect and adoration for someone’s mind and values rather than their “looks,” because the beauty and fashion industries are fueled to some degree by a lot of physical insecurities that are taught to us, even if these do end up becoming choices we make on our own accord. I feel like that’s pretty basic and logical but maybe it isn’t??
"While the notion of the sexy feminist isn’t completely false, you need to be aware of those pesky feminist demands that even the most independent of women is expecting you to ignore. Why don’t women just tell you what they want, you ask? Silly rabbit, then they wouldn’t be women!"
BRB, having a rage blackout. Also, the picture they chose to accompany that “article”…what the hell?
(Source: veganspartyharder)feminism what the fuck what the actual fuck i mean really? really? the worst