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Are we born straight or gay? - Making of Me: John Barrowman - BBC (via BBCWorldwide)

This was my first introduction to John Barrowman. So much love for this man. <3

Edit: Just realized this is my 5,000th post. BARROWMAN!!!

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"What a sad, sad day in Corpus Christi. Hatred and intolerance prevails in Flour Bluff ISD. Rather than allowing the Gay-Straight Alliance to form at FBHS, Administrators have chosen the alternative route of dis-allowing ALL non-curricular clubs to meet on campus. Not only has this district turned its back on the students who could benefit from a GSA, but now has alienated the Fellowship of Christian Athletes and other non-curricular clubs on campus as well."
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Zach Wahls Speaks About Family

Wahls, a 19-year-old University of Iowa student spoke about the strength of his family during a public forum on House Joint Resolution 6 in the Iowa House of Representatives. Wahls has two mothers, and came to oppose House Joint Resolution 6 which would end civil unions in Iowa.

This is pretty great. The only thing I’d like to add to what Zach says is, “Uh-durrr!”.

What? Just clapping aloud while sobbing in my apartment.


I should have waited until I was in my apartment to watch this because crying at work is just sooooo not OK. 

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Gays Seeking Asylum in U.S. Encounter a New Hurdle


Very interesting—and enraging—article over at the New York Times about how gays seeking asylum on account of their sexuality are increasingly being scrutinised for how well they conform to popular (and outmoded, and wrong) stereotypes about lesbians and gays.

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VIDEO: ‘Gays Need Not Apply.’ So We Applied.



The National Organization for Marriage’s sister organization, the Ruth Institute (just as fringy as NOM), is running a “Reel Love” contest. (Recall our investigation of the Ruth Institute.) They’re asking folks to send in video testimonials on what love means to them and if lifelong love is possible.

According to rules and regulations of the contest, content submitted must convey “how lifelong love between one man and one woman is possible.”  Translation: we only care about what straight folks have to say about what love means to them.

Not so fast, Dr. J.

Love is love.

We’re posting the video we submitted to “Reel Love” — it’s sure to get rejected.  But have a look at it. Who, by the way, puts on a national contest—via the Internet– that effectively bans whole groups of people from participating? Only NOM and the Ruth Institute would engage in such a loving, tolerant, and affirming undertaking.

This video totally made me squee inside.

Absolutely beautiful

I mayyyyy have teared up a little at the reveal. This is brilliant and beautiful and so, so smart. <3

(Source: lgbtqblogs)

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"Scandal being gay doesn’t have anything to do with resenting her father. She’s gay because she’s gay. She’s not revenge-gay, she’s I-like-women-gay."
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RIP Lance Lundsten, 18


The Advocate reported today that Lance Lundsten, an 18-year-old gay man from Minnesota, took his own life Saturday. He was openly gay and friends said he was bullied at school for his sexual orientation. 

KSAX TV reports that authorities believe Lundsten’s death was a suicide. Police officers responded to an emergency call at his family’s residence in Miltona around 10 p.m. Saturday, and he was taken to Douglas County Hospital, where he died. 

Minnesota senator Al Franken expressed condolences for the family; Minnesota legislators are working to crack down on LGBT bullying in schools. 

This can’t keep happening, you guys. It really will get better if you stick around to see it through.

Expect details on what we can do very, very soon. This is heartbreaking and needs to stop. 

It’s awful that progress often has to stem from tragedy, but Lance’s death is a stark reminder that, despite the enormous presence of the It Gets Better campaign and the political step forward in the repeal of DADT, it is so easy to forget that neither is a solution to a much bigger problem. Obviously that is not to say that we should give up trying. We do, however, need to be less quick to congratulate ourselves on a job well done while people still suffer at the hands of bullies nationwide and much quicker to find a way of preventing bullying rather than preventing suicides. RIP.

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Is Evangelical Christianity Having a Great Gay Awakening?


In his new book Fall to Grace: A Revolution of God, Self and Society, Jay Bakker, the son of Jim Bakker and the late Tammy Faye Messner, gives clear and compelling answers to my nagging questions.

Simply put, homosexuality is not a sin, says Bakker, 35, pastor of Revolution NYC, a Brooklyn evangelical congregation that meets in a bar.

Bakker, who is straight and divorced, crafts his argument using the same “clobber scriptures” (as he calls them) that are so often wielded to condemn homosexuals.

“The simple fact is that Old Testament references in Leviticus do treat homosexuality as a sin … a capital offense even,” Bakker writes. “But before you say, ‘I told you so,’ consider this: Eating shellfish, cutting your sideburns and getting tattoos were equally prohibited by ancient religious law.

“The truth is that the Bible endorses all sorts of attitudes and behaviors that we find unacceptable (and illegal) today and decries others that we recognize as no big deal.”

Leviticus prohibits interracial marriage, endorses slavery and forbids women to wear trousers. Deuteronomy calls for brides who are found not to be virgins to be stoned to death, and for adulterers to be summarily executed.

“The church has always been late,” Bakker told me in an interview this week. “We were late on slavery. We were late on civil rights. And now we’re late on this.”

Examining the original Greek words translated as “homosexual” and “homosexuality” in three New Testament passages, Bakker (and others) conclude that the original words have been translated inaccurately in modern English.

What we read as “homosexuals” and “homosexuality” actually refers to male prostitutes and the men who hire them. The passages address prostitution — sex as a commodity — and not same-sex, consensual relationships, he says.

(The word “homosexual” first appeared in an English-language Bible in 1958. Bakker is part of a group petitioning Bible publishers to remove the words “homosexual” and “homosexuality” from new translations and replace it with terms that more precisely reflect the original Greek.)

“We must weigh all the evidence,” Bakker writes. “The clobber scriptures don’t hold a candle to the raging inferno of grace and love that burns through Paul’s writing and Christ’s teaching. And it’s a love that should be our guiding light.”

Rafi, another change to alert you to.

(Source: azspot)

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Brilliant blog alert: Born This Way!
A photo/essay project for gay viewers (male and female) to submit pictures from their childhood (roughly ages 4 to 14), with snapshots that capture them, innocently, showing the beginnings of their innate gay selves. It&#8217;s nature, not nurture!

Brilliant blog alert: Born This Way!

A photo/essay project for gay viewers (male and female) to submit pictures from their childhood (roughly ages 4 to 14), with snapshots that capture them, innocently, showing the beginnings of their innate gay selves. It’s nature, not nurture!
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SF gay history museum finds home, identity |
Long recognized as &#8220;one of the great ground zeroes of queer liberation,&#8221; the Castro becomes the site of the nation&#8217;s first lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender history museum today.

[&#8230;] With two exhibits and hundreds of articles, the GLBT History Museum is the world&#8217;s second museum dedicated solely to gay and lesbian archives and materials, museum officials said. The only other one is in Germany.

SF gay history museum finds home, identity |

Long recognized as “one of the great ground zeroes of queer liberation,” the Castro becomes the site of the nation’s first lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender history museum today.

[…] With two exhibits and hundreds of articles, the GLBT History Museum is the world’s second museum dedicated solely to gay and lesbian archives and materials, museum officials said. The only other one is in Germany.

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Rebecca Drysdale’s “It Gets Better” Music Video Takes the Campaign to the Next Level | Splitsider

"Someday you’ll look back and
You won’t give a fuck
When you’re swimming through your pussy vault
like Scrooge Fuckin’ McDuck.”

This is like 12389712847 kinds of awesome.

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New Study Shows Homosexual/Heterosexual Love Identical In Brain | The Gay Manifesto

“Passionate romantic love is commonly triggered by a visual input and is an all-consuming and disorienting state,” Zeki says in a news release. “Previous studies have demonstrated that despite the complexity of this emotion, the brain patterns triggered when viewing the face of someone you’re in love with are limited to only a few, though richly-connected brain regions.”

Gay men naturally fall in love with other Gay men. Lesbians naturally fall in love with other Lesbians. Heterosexuals naturally fall in love with other heterosexuals. This is the way nature intended our species to interact.

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Christian Air Force Officer Vows to Violate Military Regulations if DADT Repealed | Dispatches from the Culture Wars

Won’t choose to ‘deal with it’

Letters to the Editor, December 15, 2010

So let me see if I understand this: The Defense Department is proposing to let people who choose to live a homosexual lifestyle serve “openly” in the armed forces (per the Dec. 2 article “DADT study group: Full integration is best”), but won’t allow Christians such as myself the freedom to “openly” share the good news of Christ with our co-workers — as the faith we’ve chosen requires?

DOD officials plan to tell servicemembers who have a problem with those living a homosexual lifestyle to “learn to deal with it,” but they are prepared to counsel and/or slap Christians with paperwork if someone feels “offended” by our witness? Wearing sexual lifestyle choices on your sleeve is OK, but not your faith?

Military chaplains who teach that homosexuality is antithetical to and incompatible with Christianity (which it is) can either muzzle their objections or “leave,” but gays will be permitted to parade their lifestyle choices in front of all?

Bottom line: So I’m free to express myself if I’m a homosexual, but not if I’m a Christian? What disgraceful hypocrisy.

Here’s the truth: I will continue to witness to who I want, when I want and where I want. My commitment to my God supersedes my commitment to the DOD and, if officials are upset about that, then I guess they can “learn to deal with it.”

Department of Defense? More like the Department of Double Standards.

Lt. Col. Stacy L. Maxey

Click through to read the rest of the article — this guy is a total douchenozzle. He’s a born again Christian who believes that openly gay marines would cause life threatening distractions in the field. Meanwhile, he regularly violates military regulations to promote his religion. 

The difference between religion and homosexuality is not the ability to wear it on one’s sleeve. The reason for overturning Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is to let soldiers who are gay serve openly without fear of being discharged for an unchangeable part of their biology. Gay soldiers (for the most part) won’t care if their fellow officers are Christian or Jewish or Atheist or whatever (unless those beliefs are intolerant of homosexuality)…because gay soldiers are also Christian or Jewish or Atheist or whatever.

If Lt. Col. Maxey isn’t smart enough to see the difference, then I’m sure we don’t want him in a position of power in the first place. 

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