Posts tagged misogyny.
Stuff I learn. Shared with you.: Breaking Bad Ended My Relationship And I Couldn’t Be More Grateful ›
I hemmed and hawed over publishing this publicly because it makes me look dumb. I know co workers will see it, associates will see it, people who look up to me as a survivor of abuse will see it, and I will look Dumb. But I think that’s okay. I was being pretty dumb and I think a lot of…
One of my co-workers wrote this. You absolutely must read it.
Breaking Bad spoilers within. Trigger warning for abuse.
Too many nerds have basically internalised the stereotype of themselves as ugly, friendless losers and decided that anyone who doesn’t fit that stereotype – particularly women – is a “fake geek”, taking advantage of the fact that being a geek is now “cool”.
Misha lays down the motherfucking law. [x]
motivation behind misogyny:
- men maintaining power over women
results of misogyny:
- rape, abuse, murder, lower pay, less opportunities, general discrimination and loss of power, restrictive gender roles, and much, much more.
motivation behind misandry:
- men as a group sure do a lot of bad things as a result of their gendered power and male privilege, im not sure that i trust them or even like them.
results of misandry:
- hurt feelings
Jeez, the song was a joke! Can’t you take a joke? Yes, I can take a joke. I can take a bunch! A thousand, 10,000, maybe even more! But after 30 or so years, this stuff doesn’t feel like joking. It’s dehumanizing and humiliating, and as if every single one of those jokes is an ostensibly gentler way of saying, “I don’t think you belong here.” All those little instances add up, grain of sand by grain of sand until I’m stranded in a desert of every “tits or GTFO” joke I’ve ever tried to ignore.
With all this crap lately about young women saying our generation doesn’t need feminism, I think it’s time to take to Twitter and explain exactly what feminism does not friggin’ mean.
Carla Bruni? #feminismdoesnotmean you can’t be a housewife if you don’t want to.
Taylor Swift? #feminismdoesnotmean it’s a women vs. men thing.
Got more? Tweet it.
PREACH. Join us on the twitters.
Gawker's Violentacrez Expose And How 'Buffy The Vampire Slayer' Predicted Geek Misogyny | ThinkProgress ›
I love everything ThinkProgress’s Alyssa Rosenberg writes but I think I love this piece most of all.
all women were bigger and stronger than you
And thought they were smarter
women were the ones who started wars
too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos
and no K-Y Jelly
the state trooper
who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike
was a woman
and carried a gun
the ability to menstruate
was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs
your attractiveness to women depended
on the size of your penis
every time women saw you
they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands
women were always making jokes
about how ugly penises are
and how bad sperm tastes
you had to explain what’s wrong with your car
to big sweaty women with greasy hands
who stared at your crotch
In a garage where you are surrounded
by posters of naked men with hard-ons
men’s magazines featured cover photos
of 14-year-old boys
tucked into the front of their jeans
and articles like:
“How to tell if your wife is unfaithful”
“What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate”
“The truth about impotence”
the doctor who examined your prostate
was a woman
and called you “Honey”
You had to inhale your boss’s stale cigar breath
as she insisted that sleeping with her
was part of the job
You couldn’t get away because
the company dress code required
you wear shoes
designed to keep you from running
And what if
after all that
women still wanted you
to love them.
- Carol Diehl
We couldn’t let an interview quote this epic go without being immortalized in some sort of comic book-y fashion. Get it, girl.
I have the coolest co-workers. For real. This is awesome.
This morning my coworker linked me to an article on Hello Giggles written by Emma Gannon, a Londoner who is apparently a Lifestyle blogger. I have literally never heard of her before this morning, and now I’m wishing I never had.
This multi-paragraph monstrosity of condescension and tittering little-girl rhetoric began innocuously enough: comedians make Gannon uncomfortable sometimes. And that is totally cool — comedians make me uncomfortable sometimes, too. Comedy is a way to peel back the skin of society and expose the nerves underneath. It’s not always a 100% pleasant experience. I was skeptical, but on board.
At least, until this paragraph:
This brings me on to an act I saw on Friday who tried to be controversial but failed miserably in my eyes. This comedienne was Katherine Ryan. From the programme, I was intrigued by her, but her pretty, delicate face was no warning to what was about to come out of her mouth. I must admit here that I knew I was not going to find her funny. The reason being? Well, she was a girl.
I thought, she cannot possibly be serious. She cannot possibly be tasteless and thoughtless enough, in the wake of a week where no one who’s talking about comedy has been talking about anything other than Daniel Tosh and rape culture, to write a blog entry about how women aren’t funny on a website where young progressive women, who often ID as feminist (and I am thinking here of the teenage girls who frequent Hello Giggles), get some of their information about opinions in the world.
Oh, but she is! She is that thoughtless and tasteless! Because the article goes on to explain why girls aren’t funny (but just on stage, ladies, we’re better than men everywhere else!): girls only talk about weight problems or shoes or insecurities or like, WOMEN’S ISSUES, god, how BORING.
The main reason her stand-up act aggravated me (and pretty much everyone there, by amount of people leaving the tent) was that she spoke about ‘women’s issues’. Her introduction was launching into ripping apart women who have sex too much. Then onto pregnancy, then into divorce and back into taking the out of young girls in tiny shorts. All of her ‘funny’ material was just about women. Why do you female comedians HAVE to talk about these same topics? Every. Single. Time. It makes us women look like we have nothing else to talk about. That we moan all the time about being a woman. We not just baby-making machines that complain about shoes and diets. At least I don’t think so.
First and foremost: Nope. Sorry. You don’t get a pass just because you threw in some pro-feminist rah-rah anti-gender roles lip service there at the end of the paragraph. Because here’s what Gannon’s saying: women aren’t funny because women’s experiences aren’t universal. Men’s are. Ah, right. I’d forgotten that in a patriarchy, the only experiences that matter are men’s. Thanks for reminding me, Hello Giggles.
“Ripping apart women who have sex too much” aside (that is, absolutely, bullshit), what Gannon has done here is take her experience with one lackluster comedian and apply it to an entire gender. And what is that? Say it with me now: misogyny! Hooray!
I’m curious as to how Gannon has come to the conclusion that female comedians only slut-shame and talk about pregnancy, in her words, “Every. Single. Time.” Do you know how many female comedians I know who only talk about being a baby-making machine, or complaining about shoes or diets? Zero. I know Z E R O female comedians who talk about that shit, and if they do, it is ALWAYS in the context of “here’s my experience as a woman and isn’t it fucking ridiculous that society makes it this way?”
Gannon has either a very limited understanding of how comedy works or only indulges in a very limited range of comedians if she thinks that women aren’t funny. Here are twenty women, both British and American, off the top of my head that are funny, on-stage and off (and please note that I know MANY of these women have said or done problematic things, but that is not the point of this blog):
- Wanda Sykes
- Sarah Silverman
- Amy Poehler
- Tina Fey
- Josie Long
- Margaret Cho
- Katie Halper
- Ellen Degeneres
- Samantha Bee
- Joy Behar
- Shappi Khorsandi
- Kristin Wiig
- Maya Rudolph
- Jo Brand
- Negin Farsad
- Marina Franklin
- Miranda Hart
- Comedy duo Garfunkel and Oates (whatever, technically they count as two)
- Sarah Millican
And the list goes on! Hell, if you Google “female comedians” the FIRST RESULT YOU GET is a list of 53 OF THEM ON HUFFPO. But y’all, Gannon says women aren’t funny because GOD, don’t they EVER shut UP? They’re not like men! Men know what’s funny!
Men don’t just talk about weight problems, or penis size, or diets, or how insecure they feel at the gym. They talk about objects, experiences, funny moments, observations. For the most part, their material remains gender neutral.
Here’s the thing: it doesn’t. It appears to be gender neutral observations because men’s observations are taken to be The Norm, and anything that deviates from that is “women’s observations” or “gay observations” or “black observations.”
And frankly? Many male comedians have material that is also totally gendered! They talk about their girlfriends and how “crazy” they are, how funny rape is, and stereotypically “manly” shit like hunting and sports and drinking beer at some bar while ogling hot girls in short shorts. They talk about how disgusting fat women are, how stupid blonde women are, how awful it is when women won’t sleep with them. And this gendered material is balanced with talking about being a parent, or talking about dogs or something — in the same way that women do.
What I cannot get over, aside from the internalized misogyny bleeding out of every line of this entry, is that Emma Gannon has probably been paid to publish this tripe. Someone gave her money to publish her thoughtless, tasteless, and utterly incorrect treatise on how “girls aren’t funny” on a website frequented mainly by girls — some of whom, I am absolutely sure, want to be stand-up comedians — in the wake of a solid week of feminists (Gannon IDs as a feminist, by the by) discussing the cultural repercussions of male-dominated comedy.
That’s responsible, intelligent, intersectional feminism, right there.
Oh man, I wish there was at least one woman in this THIS gif. ^^;;;
So, yeah, uh, no. When a performer stands on stage and asserts that it would be funny if a female audience member were gang raped, and that audience member is so uncomfortable that she has to flee the theater, that would not be rape culture “satire.” That would be actual rape culture. Like, a culture in which rape is tolerated and embraced. The definition of rape culture.
This is totally fucking disgusting and totally validates how I’ve ALWAYS felt really squicked out by Daniel Tosh.
Man, it really sucks I used to think he was coming from a place of intelligent satire, right around the time of his first album when he wasn’t making awful rape jokes, but it’s more clear now that he’s just a lazy asshole who thinks he can get laughs solely off the shock value of his material. Fucking gross
Yep, officially 100% done with Daniel Tosh. Gross.
When the topic of misogyny comes up, and men change the subject, it trivializes misogyny.
When the topic of misogyny comes up, and men change the subject, it conveys the message that whatever men want to talk about is more important than misogyny.
When the topic of misogyny comes up, and men change the subject to something that’s about them, it conveys the message that men are the ones who really matter, and that any harm done to men is always more important than misogyny.
And when the topic of misogyny comes up, and men change the subject, it comes across as excusing misogyny. It doesn’t matter how many times you say, “Yes, of course, misogyny is terrible.” When you follow that with a “Yes, but…”, it comes across as an excuse. In many cases, it is an excuse. And it contributes to a culture that makes excuses for misogyny.
NSFW! Australian government demands all vulva’s be digitally altered. “neat and tidy” only.
/Warning: The following video is ridiculously NSFW and contains graphic depictions of labia surgery./
This is a documentary from Hungry Beast called ‘healed to a single crease’- which is what the Australian Classification board demands be done to all depictions of female nether regions, stating any genital detail (clitoris, inner labia, pubic hair detail or volume) is too offensive and therefor illegal. The only acceptable vagina as far as the Classification Board is concerned is one that is ‘neat and tidy’ in their eyes.
The video shows interview with a doctor who performs labiaplasty, a photo editor who works for a porn company forced to digitally butcher normal vulvas and a member of the classification board who dodges questions like hell. I HIGHLY recommend watching it.
Considering the HUGE rise in labiaplasty in Australia (100% rise per year with now over 1000 women per year) with the number main cause being women thinking their bits look ‘odd’, when of course in fact they are perfectly normal; is it right to ask: Is Australia’s censorship of real bodies alienating a generation of women from their own natural, beautiful bodies?
As someone who works in the adult industry I’ve known this for a while. Until I found out about the laws I honestly thought I had a ‘disgusting hanging garden cunt’ and spent my whole puberty ashamed, embarrassed and depressed. I wanted to have surgery because I thought if I didn’t I would be able to work in my dream job. I have more than one close acquaintance who has had labiaplasty surgery because they felt they where ‘fugly down there’, because they didn’t look like every naked woman they’d ever seen in this country (healed to a single crease) when in fact they where perfectly normal and sexy.
It’s disturbing and wrong to enforce standards that say what womens genitals should and shouldn’t look like- especially when you’re effectively making the most common types of womens bits illegal to portray. Just like Australia banning small breasts citing it encourages pedophiles, regardless of the performers age.
Uhhhhh…Is this real?
How do small breasts encourage pedophiles, but little girl vulvas do not?