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Sasha Grey has a lot of guts.

And I don’t know how she does it sometimes. If you see just 1/100th of the press that’s done on her, you’ll see that most of it is her defending herself from journalists/moms/talking heads. And seeing this video makes me realize two things: 

1. Whoopi Goldberg is the only one there that gets it. 
2. As a culture we actively work to dehumanize and oppress people (mostly women) who work in the adult entertainment industry.  

This is sexism against women in its most clever and deceptive form—one that is championed by women in supposed support of women. In other words, our culture has pitted women against each other and the net effect is that women continue to stay small in rigid stereotypes while sexism goes unchecked. It’s too hard to think that women and porn can peacefully co-exist. It’s too hard to think that there is the idea of choice in porn or that one can view porn as a host for many complicated issues (both good and bad). 

This was an ambush on The View. Instead of talking about the real issue here (why are people so upset about Sasha reading to kids and what does this say about our society?) they made the issue a personal one (not in a good way) under the guise of being a moral one. They made it personal in several ways: 

1. Sheri Shepherd, probably the least intelligent person to be a member of The View, asking how she’s going to explain to her son what a pornstar is. If you as a parent can’t create a sensitive and age-appropriate answer, you are unfit to be a parent. Any parent with any parenting ability should be able to explain what a dentist does, what a pornstar does, or what a police-officer does. 

2. Barbara Walters questioning why Sasha would even want to do this in the first place? Why not? What’s wrong with volunteering for a local school? If you understand the simple concept that says: more affluent the area=the more parental involvement and volunteering where the less affluent the area=the less parental involvement and volunteering, you should thank her for wanting to donate her time. What’s more upsetting is that the question suggests that someone like her shouldn’t want to volunteer. It’s much easier to stereotype a pornstar or former pornstar as some vapid, wretch of a person with no sense of community or moral compass. But if you’re a good parent or a good educator, you show your kids honesty and integrity. You don’t have to play a DVD of Sasha Grey’s adult films but you can (if it comes up) have a conversation that is fitting: “Sasha is a TV actress but she’s also acted in adult movies where you have to be 18 or sometimes 21 and older to watch. These movies are for adults only.” What’s an adult movie? A kid might ask. “An adult movie is a movie made for adults by adults. You know how there are cartoons and shows where it’s for kids and adults really don’t watch those? There are adult movies where some adults watch those and kids don’t watch those.” It’s not that hard and that took all of 2 minutes to think of. 

3. Barbara saying that “being a pornstar isn’t something you hope your children aspire to be.” Sasha wasn’t forced into sex-trafficking at the age of 5. That’s something you don’t hope for your children. Someone choosing to be an adult entertainer is, to make this exhausted argument again, a choice. A lot of parents don’t want their kids to be in the military fighting a war that they don’t believe in or is possibly breaking international law. If a school wanted to have a soldier come in to read to the kids, what’s the harm? They’re not there to talk about covert operations in Kabul or the overspending of the military or the killing of innocent Iraqi civilians. The point of having people of all walks come in to read is to show that everyone loves to read. Reading is important. No matter what job you have, you will read. As the NBA used to say, “Reading is Fundamental.”

4. Whoopi shares a personal story about being a child growing up next to pornstars. This is perhaps the only sane moment in the interview because instead of heaping on women who do porn=evil garbage, she made it personal. Whoopi is saying these people are people. What a concept. 

5. And finally, Barbara chiming in as the old grandmother asking “what’s a nice girl like you doing in a place like that?” Before this, she questions why Sasha even entered the business if she believes in education and likes working with kid. I can’t believe this came out of Barbara’s mouth. We’re talking about a woman who pioneered the news industry for women. This question isn’t really a question. It’s more of a setup to try and get Sasha to break down and repent for all of her supposed faults. Actually, the entire interview has this tone. It’s difficult for society to accept that a woman might be in the industry and simultaneously be a good, clear thinking person. It’s easier to demonize someone and say that, eventually, they’ll wake up and realize how wrong their actions were. It’s a bully tactic that is based on the oppression of women: you don’t know what you were doing and you don’t have a mind of your own. It’s like an episode of Mad Men all over again. It just looks like it’s not oppression because it’s women doing it. It’s obvious that Barbara and co. don’t like the porn industry (that’s fine, not everyone has to) but their attitude informs their criticism of Sasha. You can criticize the industry, fine. But when you fail to see the person, the woman, behind it what you really do is create distance and isolation between people. Like Whoopi said, she lived next to and got to know pornstars when she was a kid. When you do that and have actual conversations with them, then you can create closeness and understanding.  

Sasha has a lot of guts. It’s just unfortunate that one has to have so much guts and take so much shit to be truly heard as a person.

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NSFW! Australian government demands all vulva’s be digitally altered. “neat and tidy” only.

/Warning: The following video is ridiculously NSFW and contains graphic depictions of labia surgery./

This is a documentary from Hungry Beast called ‘healed to a single crease’- which is what the Australian Classification board demands be done to all depictions of female nether regions, stating any genital detail (clitoris, inner labia, pubic hair detail or volume) is too offensive and therefor illegal. The only acceptable vagina as far as the Classification Board is concerned is one that is ‘neat and tidy’ in their eyes.

The video shows interview with a doctor who performs labiaplasty, a photo editor who works for a porn company forced to digitally butcher normal vulvas and a member of the classification board who dodges questions like hell. I HIGHLY recommend watching it.

 Considering the HUGE rise in labiaplasty in Australia (100% rise per year with now over 1000 women per year) with the number main cause being women thinking their bits look ‘odd’, when of course in fact they are perfectly normal; is it right to ask: Is Australia’s censorship of real bodies alienating a generation of women from their own natural, beautiful bodies?

As someone who works in the adult industry I’ve known this for a while. Until I found out about the laws I honestly thought I had a ‘disgusting hanging garden cunt’ and spent my whole puberty ashamed, embarrassed and depressed. I wanted to have surgery because I thought if I didn’t I would be able to work in my dream job. I have more than one close acquaintance who has had labiaplasty surgery because they felt they where ‘fugly down there’, because they didn’t look like every naked woman they’d ever seen in this country (healed to a single crease) when in fact they where perfectly normal and sexy.

It’s disturbing and wrong to enforce standards that say what womens genitals should and shouldn’t look like- especially when you’re effectively making the most common types of womens bits illegal to portray. Just like Australia banning small breasts citing it encourages pedophiles, regardless of the performers age. 

Uhhhhh…Is this real?

How do small breasts encourage pedophiles, but little girl vulvas do not?

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The Striking Sexual Similarities of Gay and Straight Men: According to a scientific study which put gay and straight men in a brain scanner while they watched pornographic videos, gay men “don’t just like the same kind of porn as straight men. They use it the same way.” 

“Our analysis of web searches, search histories, adult site traffic and paid subscriptions, videos, stories, online dating data, and adult site comments demonstrated one indisputable fact: when it comes to the sexual interests of straight and gay men, boys will be boys. The differences in the sexual interests of gay men and straight men is about the same as the differences in the sexual interests of Latino men and British men.”

In addition to this scientific research, cartoonists Chayne Avery and Russell Garcia of Boy Meets Hero created a gallery of erotic characters illustrating the parallels between gay and straight erotica (pictured: BBW & Bear). 
[Psychology Today via Reddit]

The Striking Sexual Similarities of Gay and Straight Men: According to a scientific study which put gay and straight men in a brain scanner while they watched pornographic videos, gay men “don’t just like the same kind of porn as straight men. They use it the same way.” 

Our analysis of web searches, search histories, adult site traffic and paid subscriptions, videos, stories, online dating data, and adult site comments demonstrated one indisputable fact: when it comes to the sexual interests of straight and gay men, boys will be boys. The differences in the sexual interests of gay men and straight men is about the same as the differences in the sexual interests of Latino men and British men.”

In addition to this scientific research, cartoonists Chayne Avery and Russell Garcia of Boy Meets Hero created a gallery of erotic characters illustrating the parallels between gay and straight erotica (pictured: BBW & Bear). 

[Psychology Today via Reddit]

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"Putting a label on a bottle of White Lightning saying ‘please drink responsibly’ is like putting a label on pornography saying ’ please respect women.’"
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Cas wants Dean to watch porn

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For someone who is asexual, Sherlock seems pretty adamant about the importance of porn. In other news, this video is fucking BRILLIANT. 

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Poetry…

This is art

Shakespeare would be jealous. 

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Poetry…

This is art

Shakespeare would be jealous. 

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Ladies… Addicted to Porn? This Church Will Save You - Gawker

Megachurches aren’t generally known for their openness toward sexuality (just ask Ted Haggard!). But a Kansas church now runs a support group that helps perverted women beat their porn addiction: “God created sex. But the enemy has twisted it.”

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Pornographic magazine for the blind launched

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A pornographic magazine for the blind has been launched - complete with explicit text and raised pictures of naked men and women.

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