Posts tagged rape.

If owning a gun and knowing how to use it worked, the military would be the safest place for a woman. It’s not.

If women covering up their bodies worked, Afghanistan would have a lower rate of sexual assault than Polynesia. It doesn’t.

If not drinking alcohol worked, children would not be raped. They are.

If your advice to a woman to avoid rape is to be the most modestly dressed, soberest and first to go home, you may as well add “so the rapist will choose someone else”.

If your response to hearing a woman has been raped is “she didn’t have to go to that bar/nightclub/party” you are saying that you want bars, nightclubs and parties to have no women in them. Unless you want the women to show up, but wear kaftans and drink orange juice. Good luck selling either of those options to your friends.

Or you could just be honest and say that you don’t want less rape, you want (even) less prosecution of rapists.

Michigan High School Chooses To Protect Star Basketball Player Instead Of His Rape Victims | ThinkProgress ›

It’s happening again. When will it end?

So here’s the real reason that rape jokes are troubled territory -

Because rape victims say so.

They get to say that. They get to feel that way. On this, they get to set the cultural rules.

It’s not about right or wrong, or logic versus emotion, or arguments of over sensitivity or hypocrisy - you have the free speech to make whatever jokes you want or talk about rape in whatever way you feel is illuminating. But they get to be upset about it. And call you on it. And be hurt by it.

But consider this:

You get to not be a rape victim.

They, however, are not afforded that luxury. Ever again.

Chuck Wendig (via vickiexz)

#some real talk

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What kind of world do we live in when young men are so proud of violating unconscious girls that they pass proof around to their friends? It’s the same kind of world in which being labeled a slut comes with such torturous social repercussions that suicide is preferable to enduring them. As a woman named Sara Erdmann so aptly tweeted to me, “I will never understand why it is more shameful to be raped than to be a rapist.”

And yet it is: so much so that young men seem to think there’s nothing wrong with—and maybe something hilarious about—sharing pictures of themselves raping young women. And why not? Their friends will defend them, as they did in Steubenville, tweeting that the young woman was “asking for it” and that the boys were being unfairly targeted.

Women and girls are the ones expected to carry the shame of the sexual crimes perpetrated against them. And that shame is a tremendous load to bear, because once you’re labeled a slut, empathy and compassion go out the window. The word is more than a slur—it’s a designation.

TW: Rape, Rape Culture. The Steubenville Defense Will Center on Date Rape Not Existing ›

Attorney Walter Madison: “She didn’t affirmatively say no… The person who is the accuser here is silent just as she was that night, and that’s because there was consent.

This is one of the most despicable quotes I’ve ever read.

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University Of North Carolina rape victim may be EXPELLED for speaking about her case ›

New Mexico Bill Would Criminalize Abortions After Rape As 'Tampering With Evidence' ›

If the writers of this bill consider the fetus a person and therefore worthy of protection under the law…can a person really be “evidence”? Or is the fetus then considered a “witness”? Because I’m pretty sure fetuses can’t swear in on a bible. And if you make a fetus “evidence” then it’s not really a person, is it? It’s a thing.

UGH. People are idiots and this is one of the worst things I have ever heard, ever. Top 5 at least. 

comedycentral:

Do I even need to tell you to click the gif and watch Stephen Colbert’s brilliant coverage of the latest in a long line of recent GOP rape comments? I do? Okay, click it, dummy!

BOOM.

According to the Pentagon, 52 military women are raped every day ›

jessicavalenti:

And yet, we still don’t offer servicewomen access to abortion.

upworthy:

Todd Akin can’t figure out what an actual apology should look like. Luckily, we’re here to help.

Click here to see the original and a bigger version of our remix.

Am I arguing that girls and women shouldn’t be held responsible for their behaviour? Not at all. If a woman drinks to excess, then falls over in the street, loses her wallet and vomits all over her shirt, she has only herself to blame. But rape is not a consequence of getting drunk. It’s a consequence of a man deciding to rape someone.

Emily Maguire, Princesses & Pornstars: Sex, Power, Identity (via isistiberiuscat)

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TV Tropes Deletes Every Rape Trope; Geek Feminism Wiki steps in ›

themarysue:

Up until a week ago, TV Tropes had a very handy trope index called Rape Tropes. (Note: all TVT rape trope pages in this article link, ironically, to Google caches.) This page also linked to other iterations of rape tropes in popular culture such as Rape as Backstory, Rape and Switch, Rape as Drama, Rape as Redemption, and other rape tropes common in the pop culture idiom. Today when you access any of these pages, you’re informed, “We do not want a page on this topic. It does not meet our content policy.” Recently on the discussion thread for combining the “Victim falls for Rapist” trope with the “Rape as Stockholm Syndrome” trope under the standard Rape Is Love cliche, Wiki owner and admin Fast Eddie explained that all tropes related to rape had been wiped off the site because it was getting the site “in trouble with Google.” Apparently that meant any trope containing the word “rape” had to go…

…Either Google brought down the content policy hammer or the admins simply decided it wasn’t a battle worth fighting. When Fast Eddie noted the deletion of the trope page, he added, “There is no explanation needed beyond the fact that the topic is a pain in the ass to keep clean and it endangers the wiki’s revenues. We just won’t have articles about rape. Super easy. No big loss.”

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‘Don’t Be That Guy’ ad campaign cuts Vancouver sex assaults by 10 per cent in 2011

The Don’t Be That Guy program, which was developed in Edmonton and introduced recently in several Canadian cities, shifts attention from the victim to the offender.

The emphasis of public education is not limited to how women can make themselves less vulnerable, he said. The campaign aims to reach men with the message that they should not be “that guy”.

Brilliant. Let’s get this in the States now, yeah?

Isn’t it funny that we only do it with rape?

marxisforbros:

If I was to steal a chocolate bar because it was sitting at the counter looking all tasty, it’d be theft. Nobody would say but oh, look at the creamy picture on the packaging. It was taunting him. He had no choice. It was instinct. Impulse. Drives and desires beyond his control.

If I walked into some person’s home and said I lived there, I’d be arrested. Nobody would say to the owners that they should invest in curtains so that people couldn’t see how nice their house was so easily. Nobody would tell them that they were ‘asking for it’

And if I beat a guy up because he was a loud mouth I’d be charged. Nobody would say oh but look at him, he’s a dick. He’s got gel in his hair and he’s wearing a shirt that says “How about a nice cup of shut the fuck up”. The dude is a wanker, he got what he deserved. More importantly, even if they did say that, it wouldn’t effect my charges. 

But if a woman is wearing a short skirt then it will dramatically sway people’s opinions in a rape case. Was it cut above the knee? Was your waist showing? These are serious that will be asked in a court case. 

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FBI Changes Official Definition of Rape ›

The FBI currently defines rape as “the carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will”, which, as Vanessa explained back in April, excludes statutory rape, same-sex rape, forced anal or oral sex, rape with an object and victims who are male or transgender or have disabilities, not to mention those who have taken drugs or alcohol and therefore had their ability to consent

The Uniform Crime Report Subcommittee voted unanimously to change the definition of rape, which had not been changed for 80 years (!) and rape will now be defined as, “penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.”

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